Becoming parents is one of the most fulfilling experience couples can ever have. In fact, it’s life’s best gift. So, how do we do our job well and become a better parent? Here are tips to making our lives as parents with kids happier, and more fun-filled.
8 Easy Ways To Become A Better Parent
1. Take charge
Children love limits; which in turn helps them understand and manage the world. Show them your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.
2. Avoid comparisons and labels
Most parents are guilty of comparing their kids with other children. Rather, you should be the kind of parent that takes the time to instil in your child good manners, habits, and morals.
But how do you do that? Relax. Good parenting happens in real time, on the spot, and in the moment. As a parent, the trick is to recognize those moments when your actions and reactions an help your child learn and grow in the best possible ways. It’s important that you consider who your child is, and not just his age.
For example, if your child is naturally shy and quiet, it may be that she is reserved- not that she cant talk. Among siblings, comparisons can lead to labels. Even labels meant to praise your children’s differing abilities can later become problematic.
Of course, other would be times when you’d find yourself describing your child’s likes and dislikes. However, when you do so, reframe your words. So, instead of saying “wild”, try “energetic”. “Spirited’ (not “hyper”), and “careful” (not “shy”).
3. Don’t clip your child’s wings
While your mother bear and papa bear instincts are always in full mode as a parent, remember that your child’s mission in life is to gain independence. So, when she’s developmentally capable of dressing herself, tying her shoelaces, or clearing her plate from the table, let her. Giving your child the sense of responsibility will boost her self-esteem.
4. Let them make mistakes
Don’t try to fix everything for your kids; instead, let them make mistakes, and learn from it. When you lovingly acknowledge your child’s minor problems without rushing immediately to save him, you are teaching her self-reliance and resilience.
5. Remember that discipline is not punishment
As a parent, when you enforce limits, you’re really teaching your kids how to behave in the world. In turn, you’re helping them to become competent, caring, and in control.
6. Play with your children
Let your kids pick the activity, and don’t worry about the rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. That’s the name of the game.
7. Encourage daddy time
Do you know that the greatest untapped resource for improving the lives of kids is time with their dad? Yes, it’s really true! Kids whose fathers’ engage with them perform better in school, solve problems successfully, and generally cope with whatever curveball life throws at them.
8. Be a role model
Kids learn by watching their parents. Therefore, being respectful, and having good behaviours works better than telling them what to do.
So there you have it. Parenting is not easy but if you follow the above 5 steps, it will surely help you to become a better parent.
What other ways have you tried and tested? Kindly share in the comments section below.